MY JOURNAL, MY PAPER FRIEND
By
Lael Johnson
I wanted to share with you four ways that your journal can become an important paper friend in your life. Take a few minutes to read this article and see if it gives you a new perspective on your journal writing.
How do you spend time with a good friend?
I trust my friend to listen to and comment on my conversations, including those topics that are important to me. When I journal I develop the same trust. Now, you might say, how can you trust a piece of paper? That doesn’t make sense. If you think about it though, it actually does make sense, because I’m actually talking to myself and to God, or whatever you choose to call a power outside yourself. So, when I write, I am constantly learning to trust myself to share express what is most important to me, even if it is only as simple as a to-do list or as complex as a grieving over the loss of a friendship. The more that I write, the more that I trust myself to write and the more I learn to write.
How do you have fun with a good friend?
I schedule time with my friend to go out to a movie, to a coffeehouse, attend a concert or go shopping. We spend time participating in activities that are fun, interesting, educational and sometimes challenging. When I journal, I carry my paper journal nearly everywhere I go. I sometimes stop and write my observations on the spot, like I did a few years ago, when I went to visit a local museum. I stopped to take a break, while people were walking around a garden and wrote some of my observations. At another museum, I stopped and wrote some notes after each exhibit, because there were no benches to sit on, inside the exhibit areas.
How do you communicate with a good friend?
I talk, phone, email, text and sometimes write postal mail to my friends. My preferred method is to meet face to face with my friends, though it is harder to do, as schedules become busier and busier over time. When I journal I write monologues, where I talk for pages about whatever is on my mind at the time. Sometimes I write dialogues or add several voices to a conversation so I can hear different points of view about a situation or event. I write unsent letters, where I discuss emotionally-charged issues, that I couldn’t discuss even with a good friend sometimes, until I finished expressing some of those strong emotions. I use my journal to practice, plan and prepare for conversations with my friends, loved one and other people as well.
How do you help a good friend?
I listen, talk, listen more, and share any and every resource I can with my friend, depending upon the situation that she might be going through. I give as much of my time, attention and resources to her, until she doesn’t need them anymore. Then we celebrate going through a tough spot together and look forward to a future filled with better times. When I journal, I go through the same process, sometimes I use my journal to help me help my friend or myself when I’m having a difficult day. My journal is a great resource and companion as I go through any life situation. Like my real friend my journal is truly an important paper friend in my life.
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